How to Write Wedding Vows

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I don’t know how many times I’ve sat at my desk waiting for a couple to—you know—send me their vows when it’s getting really close to the line. And the fact that I have to wait so often really indicates to me that there must be something I can do to help people. By giving them a bit of an idea of how to go about doing it.

So this is my take on how to write vows.

A lot of people don’t realise, but personal vows are actually quite a new idea. They haven’t been around for as long as marriage has been around. They came along when civil celebrants came along and people decided to create ceremonies their own way, which is kind of what civil celebrants are really all about. Personal vows are not essential, but they really are a good way to make your ceremony about you, and that’s one of the reasons why they’re so important.

Historically, vows used to be set by the church or the temple or the mosque, so you just did whatever you were told and you said whatever you were told to say.

What you decide to write, though, that’s up to you. It can be a secret from your partner, or you can actually let them know what you’re what you’re going to say beforehand. There’s no reason why you have to keep them a secret, but it’s a nice thing to do as well.

So, how long should vows be?

If you’re a great writer, you could potentially write pages and pages, but that’s not necessarily a great thing.

Long vows tend to get lost. You get halfway through and everyone has forgotten what you said at the beginning, including your partner, which is the last thing you want. You get to the end and the and that whole swathe of information is just kind of gone unless you’ve been a great storyteller. If you’re just a normal storyteller like me, then you need to keep them short.

I always say three paragraphs is about right. That’s about an A6 sheet of paper. If you filled that whole thing up, that would be fine, but you really don’t want much more than that. You need to keep it short, keep it simple: I write 3 paragraphs.

This is this is the same with all kind of writing; not just vows, but I always write in threes. And I have three things that I think you should include:

  • Why this person?
  • What do you promise, and
  • When does it end?

When Does it End?

It’s especially helpful to start at the end with wedding vows because the end is almost written for you. When does the marriage end? When one of you snuffs it (that’s exactly how my husband and I entered our wedding vows).
Most of us here in Australia have heard the traditional ending of Christian wedding vows, which are usually something like “until death us do part” or “for as long as we both shall live”.

I love the ending of Buddhist wedding vows, which run along the lines of “I give you my life to keep”. And Hindu wedding vows end with a similarly eloquent “let us be true companions and remain lifelong partners by this wedlock”.
Now, there is the vague possibility that couples do not intend to stay together for life—and that seems to me to be a very important conversation to have with your fiancé—but most of you are going to want to find a nice way to say that your marriage is for life.

And because this part of your vows is pretty straightforward, start by taking a moment to think about how you want to say it, and that will mean you’re not starting the beginning of your vows with a blank piece of paper, and it will also give you a general idea to aim for with the rest of your vows.

Why this Person?

We’ve done the end. It’s time to start at the beginning, which is why this person. Now, when I started writing my vows for my husband, I was on a train in Scotland.

Scotland itself is a mystical place to me. It’s the home of many of my ancestors and it is a place where I feel deeply connected to the land. I was also about as far away from my fiancé as it was possible to get and it was so much easier to think about what’s important to you when it’s not right in front of you. I highly recommend getting away for a bit before you even think about writing your vows.

So think about why you chose to marry this person and what it is about them that makes you want to make a commitment to them in the first place and come up with a sentence or three.

Again, there’s that’s three.

You can think about things like their personality: their sense of humour; their passions; how they treat their family; their appearance; their talents and skills; that weird way they fold socks or all the fact that they like to have ice in their red wine.

The main thing is keep it to three. Pick your top three and stick with those.

What are You Promising?

And that brings us to the middle, which is actually the end of your writing challenge: what are you promising?

This is the core part of your vows, and this is the main thing that you need to actually get across. This is the most important bit, the biggest challenge in terms of writing your vows. Summarise why you’ve made the decision that you’ve made and why you’ve decided to get married on this particular day.

You should talk to your partner about those expectations anyway. When you get married, it’s a perfect opportunity to express your commitment in a way that’s memorable and full of all that importance.

Traditional vows use words like love, honour and obey. Now don’t use obey: that’s completely anachronistic! But values like trust and loyalty are certainly not going out of fashion. And it doesn’t matter how many other brides and grooms have used them in the past.

The other classic is to acknowledge that things won’t always be rosy. Promising to never leave the lid off the Vegemite; or making an effort not to leave your dirty socks on the couch always raise a laugh. And promising to be on hand with an icy Prosecco in a crisis usually elicits a nice aww. But most importantly, this is where you lay down your intentions.
Your promises should be personal, relevant, and meaningful.

And you should get to the point and say them in a single paragraph. Three sentences to sum up what kind of a husband or wife you mean to be.

And that’s it.

Finishing up

There’s one more thing to think about. There are mandatory vows that you have to include somewhere in your ceremony. The smoothest way is to put them at right at the end of your personal vows.

In Australian law, the Marriage Act of 1961 requires that you recite mandatory vows, whatever your personal vows may say. You have to say the words prescribed in this legislation. Bob married Blanche away from the cameras in the Ritz Carlton in 1995. He had to say, “I ask the persons here present to witness that I, Robert James Lee Hawke, take thee, Josephine Blanche D’Alpuget to be my lawful wedded wife”.

The statement is part of the process and your full legal names have to be used. He couldn’t be called Bob; it had to be Robert. She couldn’t be called Blanche; it had to be Josephine.

And don’t be fooled by the fact that it says “or words to that effect”. You really can’t change very much.

Just a little more help…

There are of course pages all over the web that can help you with writing vows. I don’t have a crystal ball or anything that means that my way is the best way. Absolutely use all of them.

But I’ve done one more thing to try and help you with your vow writing. I’ve gone one step further in making this process just a little bit easier.

I created a form that will help guide you through these steps. It will email your completed vows straight to your inbox.

How easy is that? Just go to tinyurl.com/writemyvows.

Even great writers get stumped sometimes, especially when it comes to something as important as writing your vows. So don’t feel bad about it. Just get in there and do it. I hope this has helped, and if it did help, share it.

See more wedding planning help here

You may now kiss the…

Traditionally, after the official business of marrying a couple is done, a celebrant will say something like, “you may now kiss the bride”. Which makes sense if it’s the nineteenth century and a groom has just taken possession of his bride. But I’ve never been comfortable with that wording. I don’t have the authority to permit anyone to kiss anyone else, and nor should I!

I’ve shortened it to you “may now kiss”, which is okay, even if it sounds unfinished. I’ve occasionally turned it on the guests and suggested they might like to see the couple kiss. My favourite solution was a recent wedding where I turned to the bride and said “you may now kiss the groom”!

At my own wedding, we played with it a little more, and instead of having one, we had five! Each moment where it felt appropriate, our bagpiper played the refrain of Scotland the Brave, and that was our cue!

But the awkwardness in the celebrant’s phrasing is nothing compared to the question each couple faces of how they should kiss!

Do we go for a long, impassioned smooch?

Do we have a peck on the lips?

Should you kiss their hand and leave it at that?

You could head down a YouTube rabbithole, or I could just tell you: the answer is somewhere in the middle. It can be fun for the celebrant to have to remind you that you have guests. And it can be charming to play it coy. But the fact is most Australians want to see some passion in the kiss, and not too much!

You’re in charge of this, though: if you tell your celebrant you’re going to have a fifteen minute pash while everyone watches, then that’s what should happen. And if you tell your celebrant to leave out the kissing altogether, then that’s what should happen. I might think you should find the sweet spot between those two extremes, but the most important thing to remember is that it’s your wedding: you do you.

I could tell you that 15 seconds is plenty of time to kiss the bride (or groom!), but if you’re really in the moment, you’re not going to have your stopwatch going!

But I will say this: make sure you talk this through with your partner before the day. It can be uncomfortable for both of you, and probably your guests too if you aren’t in sync. So get on the same page, and have fun practising 😉

For more on wedding planning, check out these posts!

That’s Not Very Punny

There’s often a fine line between a joke and an insult, and in recent years weve been bombarded by those who decry the growth of what they call “political correctness”, or as I like to call it, “good manners”. So is there a way to make non-offensive gay jokes, or do we need to be entirely serious when preparing speeches for same sex weddings?

Wedding speeches

There is a firmly entrenched custom in western cultures in which certain guests—and usually the couple themselves—make a speech. And very frequently those speeches are hilarious. One of the main reasons humour is considered appropriate at this point in the customary proceedings is that the process a formal wedding takes usually means it has been very serious—probably also stressful—up until this point. And there’s a myriad of studies about the health benefits of humour.

So, with that in mind, the couples’ parents, attendants and even the couple themselves are very likely to want to include humour in their speeches.

Now, there are some very standardised jokes that are wheeled out for weddings. As much as these might elicit a laugh, the best laughs always come from more personal musings directly related to the couple being celebrated.

The science of jokes

Cognitive psychologists largely agree that there are three stages in finding something humorous. For a joke to work, the audience has to:

  1. Mentally construct the set-up of the joke
  2. Detect incongruity in its multiple interpretations, and
  3. Resolve the incongruity by inhibiting the literal interpretations (which are not funny), and enjoying the meaning of the funny one.

You can read more about this process in this excellent article on humour in The Conversation, and theres a great study of humour from the ACU here. But all you really need to know to tread the line between funny and just plain rude is whether your audience will be able to step through that process with you.

To do that, first consider whether the audience can imagine the set-up you’re creating. If they aren’t with you in the setup, there is no way they’re going to follow you into the next stage. It’s here, right at the beginning, that those who want to keep telling old jokes lose their audience.

If a tired or inappropriate stereotype is being perpetuated, any member of the audience who finds the stereotype inappropriate won’t be able to inhibit the unfunny interpretations, and therefore won’t recognise the funny one. Its not a choice they’re making; it’s a choice you’re making.

And thats when the jokers start complaining about political correctness.

Start by understanding the audience

The most important thing you can do is consider the audience. And for a wedding, they are all reasonably likely to have something in common with the couple getting married. A gay wedding will probably have a strong proportion of gay attendees: so gay-themed jokes are fine, as long as they don’t mock gay people. A lesbian wedding will probably have a strong contingent of lesbian attendants: so lesbian jokes are definitely appropriate, as long as they don’t mock lesbians.

Are you detecting a theme yet?

If the only way you can be funny is by mocking others, you’re probably not very funny. Perhaps in that case you can ask someone else to make that speech. But non offensive gay jokes exist, and it’s always better just to stick to jokes that don’t mock other people.

The idea that you can’t tell a joke without offending anyone anymore is just nonsense. You never could tell a racist joke without offending a racial minority. The only thing thats changed is that—for the most part—we actually care about racial minorities now. You could only tell racist jokes in the past because in the past your audience didn’t care about racial minorities. The same applies to any other kind of marginalised group.

Write for the couple, and you should hit a point that carries most of the audience along with you.

Write your own jokes

I don’t object entirely to using jokes you find on the internet. There are many many many websites dedicated to listing jokes and one liners for wedding speeches. There are even a few that list non offensive gay jokes. But apart from the fact that your audience is very likely to have heard them all before, using recycled jokes misses the advantage you get from ensuring your audience can construct the setup in their imagination.

Write your own jokes, considering the couple and the characteristics their friends are likely to share. This is a winning formula for a hilarious wedding speech that is perfect for the event.

That said, it can be helpful to gain some inspiration, and I certainly guffawed at this page!

Celebrate the couple

Lastly, the most important thing you’re being asked to do when making a speech at a wedding is to celebrate the couple. If you get so lost in the humour that you forget to do that, your speech will definitely fall flat.

  • Use humour to engage the audience.
  • Use humour to make the event a celebration.
  • Use humour to praise the couple.

The speaker who can make us laugh while being entirely serious about how joyful the occasion is, wins.

Check out my other posts about same sex weddings!

Surprise Weddings

A surprise wedding can be a great alternative for couples seeking something personal and fun. And better still, it helps to keep the family in check!

You can tell your guests it’s an engagement party, which is quite a common approach. Maybe hold a farewell party and get married at it. You can tell them you have a very important announcement in the most sombre of tones and that you don’t want to explain it more than once, so everyone has to come. My favourite idea for a surprise wedding would be to plan a party for April Fools’ Day and have the celebrant call all your guests fools before marrying you!

Marriage law

Under Australian law, you cannot plan a wedding and keep it a secret from your fiancé. Surprise weddings can be a surprise for the guests, but not for either party to the marriage. You may plan most of the wedding and present the plans to a partner with some notice, but they need to be a part of planning at least in the last month before the wedding.

Guests, on the other hand: surprise them all you want!

Managing expectations

If you plan a surprise wedding but you tell guests it’s something else, there is the risk that they will decide another event is more important.

To mitigate this risk, one approach is to say you’re thinking of eloping so they had better come to the engagement party. You can also let a few strategic friends and relatives know so they can help. And if all else fails and you have a very important person say they’re going to wait for the wedding, just tell them.

To further mitigate this risk, pick your date very, very carefully. I have a guide to choosing your date here.

You do need to have two adults to be witnesses. And to be your witnesses, they must be both alert and sober! You don’t need to tell your witnesses beforehand (as long as you’re confident they will be both present and capable of fulfilling the role) but having a couple of people in on the plan can be very helpful.

Advantages of Surprise Weddings

You’re in control! No one can tell you how to plan a wedding if they don’t know you’re planning a wedding!

A soft alternative to elopement: people who are considering eloping to minimise expectations and expenses but still want their family and friends around should seriously consider a surprise wedding.

Its a diversion! Many couples find that family members can get a little interfere-y when there’s a wedding being planned. A surprise wedding is the perfect foil to keep unwelcome noses out of your planning.

Remove unnecessary tradition by cutting your ceremony down to the bit that matter most.

Reduce your costs: getting married at your engagement party halves the number of parties you are paying for! And many other costs become unnecessary when your wedding is a surprise.

Disadvantages of Surprise Weddings

Excluding family and friends from planning: when you plan a surprise wedding, many of the traditional roles like the mother of the bride, wedding attendants and so on are foregone.

Keeping things a secret can be hard, as can hiding your excitement!

Did you notice that I don’t have many disadvantages listed? Well, there aren’t many! But the ones that exist are pretty significant. So consider your options carefully, but be encouraged! Surprise weddings are a great idea if they meet your needs!

For more on planning weddings, check out my wedding planning posts!

Baby Naming Ceremonies for Rainbow Families

Baby naming ceremonies for rainbow families can be a great way to build a strong community. Take your village on the journey with you and you’ll never parent alone!

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How to Pick Your Wedding Date


Choosing the best time to get married is no mean feat!

Whatever you pick, you’re stuck with it as your anniversary! But even more important than that, the date you pick can influence:

  • who you can book
  • where you can book
  • what it will cost, and
  • whether you can even get what you want!

So, I’m suggesting you take three steps in the process of selecting your wedding date. And I’ve added a few other things to consider below.

Step 1: Put it in Context

You probably already have an idea of an overall style for your wedding ceremony. Things like whether you want to be outdoors or indoors; at a beach or on a mountaintop; cosied up or the centre of attention.

With these things in mind, you can then consider the season that would work best for you. Then you can list any of your friends’ and family’s special dates or events. And that will give you a range for the best time to get married.

Side note: Australian outdoor wedding plans are often confounded by foreign seasons. Get strategic! Rather than relying on European seasonal expectations, take advantage of Indigenous knowledge about seasons, and Bureau of Meteorology records. For Melbourne and Gippsland, there is a great resource for Indigenous seasonal wisdom here. And the BOM has a wealth of weather data here.

Step 2: Check Availability for Your Vendors

It’s best to research critical elements of your plans before setting your date. Consider things like your ceremony and reception venue/s, and of course your celebrant.

If you pick the best date for your wedding only to find out you can’t have me as your celebrant, you will, of course, be utterly devastated! Same with that perfect reception or ceremony venue: check our availability before you make your decision.

Step 3: Check for Community Events

By this stage you will have narrowed your dates list down considerably. The only thing left to do is to check what else is happening in the weeks before and after your dates. It can be particularly annoying for guests who need to travel to find that all the accommodation is booked because of another event. Check council websites and state tourism websites to see if there are any clashes that can help you narrow down your options.

As you work through those steps, you might also like to think about these ideas:

Consider days other than Saturday

56% of weddings in Australia happen on a Saturday, and the wedding industry is geared towards Saturday weddings. This is largely due to it being a weekend day with another weekend day following: but, most venues will charge a fortune to let you keep partying into the night, so I don’t know why that should matter.

The upshot of that convention is that both booking openings and pricing can be more favourable elsewhere in the week. On average, Tuesdays have the fewest weddings, closely followed by Wednesdays. Fridays are great for night weddings, and Sundays are great for morning weddings.

Consider public holidays and other occasions

Public holidays are often overlooked, and there are a few strategic ones that could be perfect for you:

  • Good Friday might not be popular with hyper-religious folk, but it is followed by a weekend day, and across the whole of Australia the average number of weddings that happen on a Good Friday is just over 100 (well below the Saturday average of 1,269) so it’s an easy day to book, and you may find a discount or two!
  • Easter Monday is similarly open for booking: it might not be followed by a weekend, but it makes a great morning or afternoon wedding date
  • Halloween has a slightly higher average number of weddings than the others in this list, because it occasionally falls on a Saturday, but what a theme! Halloweens that don’t fall on a Saturday have an average of 200 weddings across Australia.
  • Melbourne Cup Day could make a great theme for a wedding and it is wide open for weddings (as long as your venue isn’t a racecourse)!

Novelty dates come with their own hassles

In the last decade, the most popular date for weddings was Saturday 10 November 2012. 3,040 couples tied the knot across Australia on that day just to see their wedding date abbreviated to 10.11.12. It’s a fun novelty, but the payoff is that choosing such a date means you are competing with a lot of people for bookings. When choosing the best time to get married, it’s probably not going to be the same day as everyone else!

Check my other wedding planning posts for more tips!

LGBTIQA+

I recently updated my website and the acronym LGBTIQA+ occurs in a quite a few spots. Not everyone is as familiar with this acronym as I am—and for that matter plenty of wonderful people are more familiar with it than I am! So I wanted to link that acronym to a little explainer that makes it clear what I mean.  

Right up front, though: if you’re uncomfortable with or confused by this acronym, I understand because I have been too! Well, perhaps not confused… because I’m part of this community and have made an effort to understand the way we got here. But often uncomfortable.

No one should feel uncomfortable around this acronym, because it is an effort to include people. Even allies who may not be part of the rainbow family, but support us nonetheless! So here is my attempt to help you know what I’m talking about when I say LGBTIQA+…


Acronyms are inherently problematic

Before we go any further, I want to say that I am an avid avoider of acronyms. Especially in this era, with keyboards everywhere and few reasons to write by hand, there’s very little benefit in abbreviating words. And there’s plenty of disadvantages. As my grandfather always said, “abbreviation is laziness”.

The problem for the rainbow family, though, is that we are made up of people with a very broad range of gender identity and sexual characteristics and there is no one word that really describes all of us. However, in order to lobby for the rights we’ve won, we have worked together. So regardless of our diversity, we have every reason to think of ourselves as one community.


How we got here

Our community didn’t just turn up as it is. In western societies, members of the rainbow family had to hide who they were to stay safe. And as that changed, it was the larger sections of our community who came out first. They set up organisations with gay and lesbian in their title. Then they realised that bisexual people had a place in the community too, so the acronym GLB was born. During the AIDS pandemic, lesbian sisters were so supportive of their gay brothers that we started putting the L first. And then we recognised the need to acknowledge the place of transgender people in our community, so LGBT came along.

Now in most of the world, they pretty much stopped adding to the acronym at that point, and added a plus sign instead. Some add an I for intersex variations, some add a Q for questioning or queer (we can’t agree on which it stands for). In Australia, those additions became the norm, along with an A or three for asexual, aromantic and agender.

The different ways we render the acronym, like the different ways we define its meaning, are a legacy of this process. Most Australian state governments now default to LGBTIQA+, though the sequence of the last three letters changes often. You might see on my site a few different iterations of the acronym. Sometimes its hard to stay consistent and make things work.


Attempts to fix it

There are over forty different variations that could be included in the acronym. We struggle enough with the standard seven we usually use in Australia. And that’s why there’s a plus sign at the end. There are efforts to get around the awkwardness by using other signifiers, such as

  • SOGI (for sexual orientation and gender identity) or
  • GSM (gender and sexuality minority), or
  • QUILTBAG (I’m not even going there!)
  • and a whole bunch of others.

I’ve been a student of linguistics for a long time, and my expectation is that LGBT+ and LGBTIQA+ are too firmly entrenched both within the Anglosphere where they originated, and also in other language groups to be replaced by another acronym.

Acronyms, after all, are for Vogons!

I would love to have a word that describes us. Sometimes, informally, I refer to the rainbow family, as I did a few paragraphs back. But that’s still an imperfect solution.  

Queer is another strong candidate, and one I embrace personally. I love it not just because it is something we have reclaimed from our detractors, but also because its meaning is just so right. I am anything but normal or boring! But elders of our community were taunted with that word, so it is not a perfect candidate either.

Instead, I accept that the imperfect and awkward acronym LGBTIQA+ is the most formal and inclusive way to signify my rainbow family in its entirety.


But what does it stand for?

Ok, you didnt all want a history lesson. Or a linguistics lesson. If you just clicked through to know what LGBTIQA+ stands, thanks for bearing with me as I explained myself—the wait is over! 

L is for lesbian

G is for gay

B is for bisexual

T is for transgender 

I is for intersex

Q is usually said to be for queer, but also occasionally for questioning, and we love them both. 

A is for asexual, aromantic and agender folk. 

And finally + is absolutely as important as all the others, or maybe more. It is for all the people who don’t feel any of these descriptors is entirely right for them or who are pansexual or demisexual or sapiosexual or any one of the myriad other sexual orientation and gender identities that aren’t in the acronym. You all matter.


Further reading

If you’ve come this far and I haven’t bored you to tears, you might want a more comprehensive exploration of this. I cannot recommend any explainer more highly than The Equality Project’s LGBTIQ 101. Enjoy!

How to Select Music for a Funeral, Tip #1

USE SOCIAL MEDIA TO SELECT FUNERAL MUSIC

One of the things we often struggle with when planning a funeral is selecting music. We all agonise over it… but there’s every chance the loved one you’re trying to honour has given you some help without even knowing it.

If they’ve been using social media for any period of time, they probably expressed pleasure about a song or two over the years… well that is a gold mine for music selection!

Facebook makes this particularly easy:

  1. Go to their profile
  2. Click on the menu button []
  3. Click on Search Profile
  4. Type song or track or any other term they might have used to post about music they like, and check the results… remembering that the first one to come up might not be the gold you’re after, so keep on scrolling!

Other social media platforms aren’t quite so helpful with this, but you can always bring up their profile on a desktop web browser and then press CTRL + F to bring up your browser’s native search function and do the same searches. They might not be as targeted, but they should still deliver the result you need!

Another approach to searching their profile, is to search for artists you know they liked, so see what specific tracks they enjoyed.

This may not be helpful at all if your loved one wasn’t using social media or if they weren’t very active, so have a look at my other funeral planning tips for more ideas.

Great Dates for Weddings 2022

What are the best wedding dates for 2022, Australia? I have a few suggestions…

Special days

  • New Year’s Day falls on a Saturday, so it will probably be more popular than usual
  • Lunar New Year falls on Tuesday 1 February in 2022 so there won’t be a lot of people clamouring for it
  • Valentine’s Day is a Monday, so not too many people are going to book your spot there either
  • April Fool’s Day falls on a Friday, and I can imagine inviting your friends to an engagement party that turns out to be a wedding ceremony would work very well indeed!
  • Friday the 13th happens in May if you want to tempt fate!
  • Lesbian fiancés can rejoice because International Lesbian Day happens to fall on a Saturday (8 October)!

Dates with many twos

Is 2 the lucky number for wedding dates in 2022? There are twos everywhere this year!

  • February offers 2.2.22 and 22.2.22, which fall on Wednesday and Tuesday respectively
  • Two Saturdays fall on the 22nd of the month, and one is in the most popular month of the year for weddings, so I imagine 22 October 22 is going to be a very popular date, and 22 January 22 won’t be far behind it!
  • Friday 22 April 22 is also a great option, but I’m already booked!
  • 22 May 22 falls on a Sunday
  • 22 July 22 falls on a Friday

Novelty dates with little competition

Avoiding Saturdays for your wedding ceremony can make booking easier and save you some cash. These dates would make your wedding ceremony just a little more special:

  • Wednesday 2 February can be shortened to 2.2.22
  • Tuesday 22 February can become 22.2.22
  • Thursday 10 November sounds good as 10.11.22
  • Armistice Day offers 11.11.22
  • Sunday 11 December has triplets: 11.12.22

Same sex couples can consider all of Pride Month a novelty date with little competition, because June is one of the months when the fewest weddings are held.

For more information on planning your wedding, check out my wedding planning blog posts

Wedding Music Tip #1

USE YOUR SOCIALS TO FIND YOUR IDEAL WEDDING SONGS

One of the things engaged folks often struggle with in planning their ceremony is selecting wedding songs. Everyone agonises over it… but you’ve probably already given yourself a hint without even knowing it!

If you’ve been using social media for any period of time, you’ve probably expressed pleasure about a song or two over the years… well that is a gold mine for wedding music selection!

Why listen to other people’s lists when you already made your own? If you and your fiancé do this together, you may just stumble on a song that means more to you than you realise.

Image showing location of search function in Facebook

Facebook makes this particularly easy:

  1. Go to your profile
  2. Click on the menu button []
  3. Click on Search Profile
  4. Type song or track or any other term you might have used to post about music you like, and check the results… remembering that the first one to come up might not be the gold you’re after, so keep on scrolling!

Other social media platforms aren’t quite so helpful with this, but you can always bring up your profile on a desktop web browser and then press CTRL + F to bring up your browser’s native search function and do the same searches. They might not be as targeted, but they should still deliver the result you need!

Didn’t find the right track? Keep your eyes peeled for my other wedding music tips 😉

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